Consulting/Coaching
What I offer
I provide my clients with respect, emotional safety, empathy, alliance, validation, reflection, understanding, curiosity, gentleness, awareness, patience, attentive listening and responsiveness, support, help in identifying and solving problems, my competency, personal experience and knowledge, and, of course, confidentiality.
Currently, I work with my clients online – which means you don't even have to leave your home or spend time and money for commuting!
What I do NOT offer:
- Financial or legal counseling
- Psychiatric diagnosis, hospitalization, or any potential stigma related to it
- Drugs, medication, or other substances
- Mysticism or hoax (chakra clearing, psychic reading, astrology, talking to the dead, astral travel, fortune-telling, or any "New Age stuff")
Some areas of my interest and problems I have more experience in dealing with:
- Childhood trauma / adverse upbringing
- Narcissism and codependency
- Self-worth and self-esteem
- Personal boundaries
- Relationships and interpersonal problems (conflict, negotiation, relationship goals)
- Social anxiety and people-pleasing
- Chronic shame and guilt
- Grief and bereavement
- Perfectionism, decision-making, and fear of making mistakes
- Emotional literacy (empathy, emotional regulation, emotional awareness)
- Effective communication
- Self-care and self-harm
- Feeling stuck or having a crisis
- Time management, goal-setting, and personal efficiency
- False versus reality-based belief systems
- Adult children of alcoholic or narcissistic parents
- Couples/marriage/relationship counselling
Approaches and theories that I have incorporated into my work:
- Psychodynamic therapy
- Attachment theory
- Psychoanalysis
- Existential therapy
- Humanistic/Client-oriented therapy
- Neuro-linguistic programming (NLP)
- Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT)
- Nonviolent communication (NVC)
- Psychohistory
- Internal Family Systems (IFS) / Parts work
- Dream analysis
- Emotional literacy
- Grief therapy
- Life coaching
- Self-responsibility, individuality, and self-actualization
My Work Approach:
- Every person is unique. Even though our fundamental needs are similar, everyone has their own authentic set of experiences, thoughts, emotions, problems, and goals. Therefore, my work and my relationship with every client are also unique. I see my client not as a walking label such as "sociophobic," "bipolar," or "obsessive-compulsive," but rather as an individual who is on their own distinctive path of life.
- We can only save ourselves; no one else can save us. In other words, therapists, consultants, psychiatrists, coaches, mentors, family members, or friends may help us, but primarily we only help ourselves. No one else can solve our fundamental problems, and no one should even accept such a task. My ultimate goal is to help you help yourself.
- Everyone has the potential for vitality and plenitude, but for many of us these are hard to actualize. However, having the right environment and the right helper can bring us closer to materializing them.
- I am my client's ally, supporter, and helper. I try, to the best of my ability, to help my client discover himself or herself, to heal inner wounds, to let go of false beliefs, and to resolve inner conflicts and problems, without imposing my own beliefs or authoritarian approaches.
Consultation Prices
I usually offer a price range from 90 USD to 180 USD per 50 minute session, and I let the client choose based upon their financial situation and other factors.
If you have any questions you'd like to ask me before starting our therapeutic work, feel free to contact me.
If you have any questions you'd like to ask me before starting our therapeutic work, feel free to contact me.
Testimonials
I started working with Darius about 6 months ago, and at the time I had just confronted my parents about some of the neglect and abuse I had received as a child. I was having a very hard time processing and accepting the response and reaction I got back from them, and it was also starting to negatively impact my relationship with my wife and son. I felt quite a bit of sadness at the time and after talking with Darius I quickly realized that I had a lot of unprocessed childhood trauma, and a great deal of confusion around my childhood as a whole. Darius helped me start to uncover many suppressed feelings that I had been holding onto for decades, and in doing so helped me get "unstuck" in several areas that I previously saw as just permanent undesirable features of myself.
I found Darius to be very professional, and I really enjoyed meeting through Skype and the flexibility that gave me in scheduling our sessions. In working with Darius, some of the greatest progress for me was made in the areas of self esteem, strengthened connection with my wife and son, greater clarity of my past, and a massive reduction in my own anxiety around others that I never knew was even possible. This progress has spilled into so many other areas of my life, and where I just a short 6 months ago felt lost, I now feel so happy about who I am, where I'm going, and my journey ahead. Thank you, Darius!
— Nick, USA
I found Darius to be very professional, and I really enjoyed meeting through Skype and the flexibility that gave me in scheduling our sessions. In working with Darius, some of the greatest progress for me was made in the areas of self esteem, strengthened connection with my wife and son, greater clarity of my past, and a massive reduction in my own anxiety around others that I never knew was even possible. This progress has spilled into so many other areas of my life, and where I just a short 6 months ago felt lost, I now feel so happy about who I am, where I'm going, and my journey ahead. Thank you, Darius!
— Nick, USA
Darius has been a compassionate, accessible, and respectful emotional consultant. He is consistently patient and kind, sensitive yet sensible towards my needs and my personhood, and together we have built a safe emotional environment in which we can discuss whatever is the topic of the day. I have been challenged, and sometimes I have been uncomfortable, but this is what I wanted from my helper, and Darius is both open and able to deliver this in a reasonable manner that allows for my personal growth.
I have found Darius to be an empathetic and reliable individual who has earned my trust and my respect, and he has demonstrated a strong sense of professionalism. He is an astute observer, a great listener, and knows how to approach difficult subjects. Consultation through Skype is very convenient too and all in all, I have been very pleased with the open availability it offers. I’ve made some real steps towards bettering my sense of self since I’ve begun this work with Darius, and I am glad to have taken the opportunity to do so.
— Anonymous
I have found Darius to be an empathetic and reliable individual who has earned my trust and my respect, and he has demonstrated a strong sense of professionalism. He is an astute observer, a great listener, and knows how to approach difficult subjects. Consultation through Skype is very convenient too and all in all, I have been very pleased with the open availability it offers. I’ve made some real steps towards bettering my sense of self since I’ve begun this work with Darius, and I am glad to have taken the opportunity to do so.
— Anonymous
I approached Darius after having familiarized myself with co-dependency. I have developed this condition throughout the course of my life. I grew up with alcoholic parents and, then, spent nearly ten years in a relationship with an addict.
Being totally confused about my feelings, thoughts and origins of compulsive behavioural patterns, I asked for help. Sessions with Darius provided a great deal of validation and empathy. Finally, I was able to admit the painful truth of emotional, intellectual and psychological neglect I experienced as a child. Darius stood on my side and revealed the truth I was never told in my whole life. This allowed me to start processing the grief over my lost childhood and enabled the release of deeply hidden rage and pain.
Since my family of origin has not accepted a new me it, consequently, led to my separation from them and their unhealthy behaviours. I became strong enough to make such a decision taking into consideration my well-being and not feeling toxic shame or guilt, not being afraid of rejection and abandonment. I am on the path of building my self-esteem, self-worth, and self-love up but now I am deeply confident that I am changing my life for the better.
I can’t thank Darius enough for being my Enlightened Witness.
— Inga, England
Being totally confused about my feelings, thoughts and origins of compulsive behavioural patterns, I asked for help. Sessions with Darius provided a great deal of validation and empathy. Finally, I was able to admit the painful truth of emotional, intellectual and psychological neglect I experienced as a child. Darius stood on my side and revealed the truth I was never told in my whole life. This allowed me to start processing the grief over my lost childhood and enabled the release of deeply hidden rage and pain.
Since my family of origin has not accepted a new me it, consequently, led to my separation from them and their unhealthy behaviours. I became strong enough to make such a decision taking into consideration my well-being and not feeling toxic shame or guilt, not being afraid of rejection and abandonment. I am on the path of building my self-esteem, self-worth, and self-love up but now I am deeply confident that I am changing my life for the better.
I can’t thank Darius enough for being my Enlightened Witness.
— Inga, England
Before I began speaking with Darius, I was someone with an unresolved past dealing with the ways in which that past destroyed my marriage. "Self-archeology" is really the perfect description of what we did, as Darius helped me get clarity on a past that was shrouded in unclarity and uncertainty. Darius asked piercing questions that helped me become very clear on my past from a factual standpoint of what happened, and he further guided me in becoming present and comfortable with my emotions about the past and in the present.
I write this over two years since the end of our last session. Darius did not only help me uncover the edges and shape of my past: he also taught me by example how to lead that process of self discovery and exploration independently.
To anyone engaged in that process of self discovery, particularly those who are healing from difficult childhood experiences, I recommend Darius without reservation, and wish you all the best in your journey of mind and heart.
— Jonathan, New York, USA
I write this over two years since the end of our last session. Darius did not only help me uncover the edges and shape of my past: he also taught me by example how to lead that process of self discovery and exploration independently.
To anyone engaged in that process of self discovery, particularly those who are healing from difficult childhood experiences, I recommend Darius without reservation, and wish you all the best in your journey of mind and heart.
— Jonathan, New York, USA
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